My First Wedding Fair

A couple of weeks ago I was sent a text by a friend & client who had to drop out of a wedding fair at The Haynes Motor Museum and asked if I would be interested in taking her place.   I had planned to do a wedding fair this year but due to a lot of family stuff going on earlier in the year had not got round to researching and planning dates, so it was serendipitous that I was given this opportunity out of the blue.  The company that ran it is The Wedding Emporium, which I had heard of a couple of times.  The lovely staff there were amazing to organise everything for me so swiftly – even when I text them late Saturday night because I had forgotten to mention my clothes rail and they simply and calmly re-shuffled things around to accommodate it.

On arrival I was delighted to be shown to a huge plot where I could really make a splash with all my goodies.

Here I am after setting up with a couple of my dresses on their mannequins

And this is the full stand

My aim was to create a kind of ‘wall of sound’ in colour, to be as attractive and inviting as possible to draw in brides and their families, given that my business focus is much wider than wedding attire alone.  I had a bit of a helping hand from my sister Tamsin who is the manager at the Sturminster Newton branch of WessexPhotographic, she printed two lovely canvases for me on Saturday ready for Sunday which were very helpful to point out to prospective clients.  Now that I have the measure of what I need for wedding fairs I will get lots of prints of wedding related things that I have done over the last few years to create some new photo books, with separate ones for bespoke Wedding Dresses, Altered Wedding Dresses, Bridesmaids Alterations, Mother of the Brides outfits and Gents alterations and specialist suits.

Dresses and suits to suit all tastes

There were two other stands with a focus on wedding attire, as you can see there were lots of dresses to inspire and I really liked the suit hire stand where the gentleman running it wore a great morning suit with a beautiful pink cravat, although I did not get a chance to talk to him unfortunately.

Lots of gorgeous cakes to taste and see

There were three cake specialists who all had amazing cakes on display and to sample, each took a different approach to the sample tasters, Plan It Cakes who displayed mega opulent cakes is highlighted in the photo, made lots of mini frosted cakes; and Mummy’s Little Cakery offered sample cakes with a choice of frostings for folk to apply with a spatula to their favoured cake sample.  My stand was close to The Art of Cake  made by Tanya Martin, her cakes had an elegance and simplicity that I found very refreshing and she is rather lovely to talk to – I would recommend her to any of my brides.

Floral design that caused a real stir

The stand on the far left of this photo was created by Julia Moore Floral Design and there were lots of people gathered around it pretty much all the time, her flowers were stunning and her approach was incredibly professional.

Either side of me were two of my favourite stands of the day.  Somerset Wedding Campervans had two vintage VW campervans outside that were completely gorgeous – there is a pretty ivory coloured one that Jo and her husband call Lily which is utterly charming inside and out.  Natasha of The Little Photo Company had an amazing stand that included lots of marvellous printed photobooks with many genres of photo styles which were a real delight, Tash is lovely and very approachable and creative in her outlook to her work which is totally fabulous.

A fabulous day all round

I really enjoyed the whole experience and learned a great deal to make future events much more focused and hopefully very successful, and would like to thank the lovely ladies at The Wedding Emporium, especially Meghan who got my slot organised at VERY short notice and gave me some delightful feedback about my work after viewing my website and blog before we even met on Sunday morning.  It was also lovely to meet lots of new suppliers of services and makers of beautiful cakes, there was a surprisingly similar feel to many of the craft fairs that I attend and the venue at The Haynes Motor Museum is wonderful, well lit, lots of facilities and friendly staff.  I will post future dates as soon as I have confirmed them so will keep you all posted about next year.

To all the Brides and their relatives that I spoke to, it was lovely to meet you all and whether or not I hear from you in the future I wish you all the very best for your wedding days and a wonderful future in your married lives.

Newlyweds - Bride and Bridesmaids project

I’ve just taken receipt of some lovely photos from one of my bridal clients, this was a pretty big undertaking as I had major alterations to make on the wedding dress itself and for all of the five bridesmaids too – my poor work wardrobe was groaning with wedding work this year, it was great!

The bride is very slim, around a size 6 and the dress needed a lot of taking in on the bodice and scooping the hem up at the front.  The bodice is laced up at the back as many wedding dresses are these days and because of the bride’s slim build there was a huge length of the lacing that would be leftover, this I used to make dainty shoulder straps for a more vintage look.

You can see the bodice in more detail here and the straps make it look so much more sophisticated in my humble opinion.

Here comes the bride with all of her bridesmaids.  All but one had to be taken up at the hem and all of the Bridesmaids dresses needed the single strap changing – they were all too long by quite some way.  You will spot a difference on the bridesmaid second from the left; she was very uncomfortable with the single shoulder strap so with some leftovers from the hem I made a second strap to ensure security and comfort. Another tweak we made to these dresses was under the bust, which originally dropped straight from the bust point to the waist without being fitted under the bust, they were all very pleased with the resulting curves and it really helped the dresses to stay put without being constrictive.

 You can see the second strap much better here. 

This is the bride with some of her closest friends, on the left is another of my brides who gets wed this week,  and the new Mrs Lowe will be a bridesmaid for this next bride too, photos to follow very soon.

It has been a fantastic bridal season this year, and is still going strong, at present I am working on a beautiful Mother of the bride outfit and her daughter’s wedding dress which is in a stunning embroidered silk Dupion, I can’t wait to show you the photos towards the end of next month.

Alterations – Wedding Dress Afterlives

A little while ago I posted the wedding tips article, in it I mentioned what could happen to the wedding dress after the big day.  I have worked on a number of these projects, making dresses shorter in the case of less formal wedding dresses so they can be worn for other occasions; these are relatively simple alterations; and more ambitious ideas.  The two projects outlined here are two of my very favourite ones. The first is very special indeed.

I was contacted recently by a Grandmother who wanted a Christening outfit made for her youngest grandson made out of her wedding dress from 1973.

This is the original dress, it has a really charming bodice with layered sleeves and very pretty lace in the body of the sleeves and neck, and embellishing the waistline, this second lace is different from that which forms the sleeves.  There is another braid style lace at the hem which is very simple and pretty.

After looking at a number of patterns for Christening outfits we selected a rompa suit with an accompanying bonnet to be made out of the dress.  After much unpicking I had removed the braid at the hem and lace at the waist and dismantled the skirt.  I have left the bodice intact as the family may wish to use it for something else.

Using the two largest panels from the skirt and the braid from the hem I have created this very sweet rompa suit with a peter pan collar.  The plastic poppers at the crutch are on a tape and then in the back of the bodice I have used ordinary metal poppers.

The bodice of the suit is lined and the centre front has been pin-tucked and the braid from the dress hem trapped in the tucks and stitched down.

I have trapped more braid in the sleeves as well.  I must say it was pretty fiddly to make these sleeves as they are very small.

Last but by no means least is the bonnet, we all cooed and ahhed over this when my clients came to collect it yesterday. 

A number of years ago I was asked by one of my closest friends to create an outfit for her brother’s wedding out of her own wedding dress.

This is the original wedding dress, being a slim and curvy woman (somewhat akin to Marilyn Munroe in shape) I designed a subtly sexy outfit to show those curves off to best effect.

We combined the fabric from the skirt with some shot taffeta that I had left over from my second year student collection. The first element I made is this cami top which is piped with the taffeta.

The skirt has a deep yolk style waistband with a dip in the front made in the taffeta, and the main body of the skirt, made with the wedding dress satin has a double fluted frill at the back near the hem to allow ease of movement in what would otherwise be a very restrictive pencil skirt.

Then I made this jacket which has a fluted peplum to echo the skirt hem and decorative inner cuffs in the satin tying it all together.

Lastly, I used the bodice to make a matching handbag.

I hope this inspires you to think about how you could use your wedding dress, who wants to spend the next however many years carting around your dress in a big box every time you move house when you could have it made into something else which gives you joy and every time you wear it or use it, it will remind you of the wonderful day YOU had wearing it the first time.

Charity shop Wedding Dresses

The other week I was extolling the virtues of Charity Shops as a Wedding Dress outlet, well here is the proof of just that!  I was in Salisbury today and had time for a look in the charity shops after my dental appointment; the best place for this is Catherine Street in Salisbury as there is a large concentration of them, although there are plenty of others dotted around the city – and Fabricland too which is a bonus.  I think there are at least eight charity shops in Catherine Street that I can think of off the top of my head.

This is not the best photo I have ever taken but the sun was shining and it was a bit tricky to get a pic with no reflections with all the parked cars around.

Imagine how pleased I was to come across this lot!

The lovely member of staff on duty was very pleased for me to take photos and write this article and let me have free reign pulling some examples out to take a closer look.  I explained what I do and my views on how expensive weddings have become and we shared a bit of a discussion about it.

This smaller section is stuffed with around seven or eight Wedding Dresses, one being brand new, and some lovely Flower Girl & Bridesmaids dresses too, one of which has been lovingly and beautifully made at home by someone who is exceedingly accomplished; their rulo loops were even finer that mine.

I particularly singled out this one as it is very contemporary and I loved its simplicity and understated decoration, it would be gorgeous for a lovely summer wedding.

All these dresses are priced from around £10-£25, which in any book is a fantastic bargain, they are all in super condition and I heartily recommend that you take a look if you are in the area.

Have fun

A good challenge, making someone’s day

A few weeks ago, in the course of working for one of my brides, I was asked if I could make a tailored suit for her Brother in law to be, he has a number of physical challenges including his lack of mobility and a feeding tube to accommodate.  When I spoke to Mr C he told me a horror story about being trapped in a jacket when trying on a suit at major men’s retailers, with staff there ignoring his needs! Shocking.

So, the challenge was firstly, to make a jacket that would sit nicely, that was not too bulky around the neck, that was split down the back and closed with Velcro to make it easier to get into, and an opening for his tube to go into; all this and for it to look simply like a well-tailored suit jacket.  The trousers needed to have a soft waistband with a Velcro fly made to look like a standard one, no pockets and fully lined.

We started with the fabric, it had to be a good match for the suit his Brother, the Groom, was wearing – especially given that Mr C was the Best Man.  At Bailie House I found some beautiful English 120s Wool & Cashmere, Navy shot with Grey.  It is super soft and lovely to work with and feels more like silk!  To go with this wonderful fabric I got some very silky Navy Twill lining.  My only small misgiving with the fabric is that because it is light weight it can look a little creased no matter how perfectly it is pressed, but the big payoffs of comfort and softness far outweigh that minor point, added to this is that in the wheelchair it will get a bit scrunched anyway.

To start the suit off there was the shirt which had already been bought and needed altering and adapting.

The shirt sleeves were mighty long and were shortened as far as possible without losing the integrity of the cuff opening.

I moved the pocket to the other side and using the leftover fabric from the sleeves, made a jetted opening for the tube that sits about 8cm below the opening in the jacket to ensure the tube comes up through both without any trouble.

Next, came the trousers which are a slim cut dinner suit design without the flat piping.  We changed the waistband for a nice soft Cotton Jersey and made it much deeper to be really comfortable, to strengthen it I have used some 8cm wide elastic rather that any kind of stiffener.

Here you can see the trousers from the side with nice crisp creases pressed in front and back.

The waistband close up with the front fly in detail.

Rather than a zip and button I have used Velcro and poppers which are set in to look like zip flies.

The piece de resistance is the jacket.  The front has a welted pocket style opening at the top left and closed welted pockets on both sides lower down.  We designed the jacket without a collar to save bulk around the neck especially given the narrowness of the shoulders.  I am really pleased with the buttons; they were a fantastic find at Hansons in Sturminster Newton.

I love the buttons, they are really subtle with a matt finish, in the bag are the spares –one of each size for the front and sleeves and a bit of matched thread.  The sleeves are finished with 3 buttons and fake buttonholes.

The welted opening only differs from a normal pocket in that there is no pocket bag and a hand finished jetted opening inside.  You can also see the back neck facing similar to that of a women’s jacket which was the most practical to help strengthen the top of opening in the back of the jacket.

Here you can see the disguised welted pocket opening; I stuck a pencil in to demonstrate how little impact the tube will make to how the jacket sits.

This is the Velcro opening for the back which is so important for Mr C to be able to be dressed and escape from it relatively easily.  Finishing the lining inside was a bit of a challenge although you would not think so to look at it, it was a bit like a Chinese puzzle and I had to walk away from it and let my brain percolate for a while after the first go!

Here is Mr C in all his glory on his brother’s wedding day, it was such a delight to see him all gussied up for the day and looking very sharp.

You can see why it was important that the neckline was as slim line as possible from the side view.

The whole wedding party, the only outfits I had no hand in was the Groom and the Best Man’s second, I had done all the alterations for the Bride, Bridesmaids and Flower Girl.

When I delivered Mr C’s suit and the last of the alterations over to the Bride & Groom’s home in the week before the wedding, many the family were there to see the suit, everyone was so pleased with it and for myself, this has been one of my favourite projects since graduation in 2004.  This kind of project does not come along very often, to truly aid someone to look their very best and adapt clothing to accommodate with dignity my client’s particular needs has been a great privilege.  I love a good technical challenge and this has been a triumph all round.

Thank you Mr C for this fantastic commission and for your patience with all the fittings, I have enjoyed every minute.

A fabulous find, Wedding Buttonique

A few weeks ago I was looking around for some fabulous pictures of Bead, Button & Brooch Bouquets, I love them and personally think they make a wonderful memento for brides of their big day, or to make a gift of for bridesmaids or other special relatives to remember the wedding.  Fresh flowers are so fleeting and these bouquets can be made to include special pieces such as Granny’s brooch or some sentimental buttons from a favourite piece of clothing that is meaningful to the bride and/or her family.

There are huge copyright issues about simply posting somebody else’s pictures without their permission so I found someone making these bouquets in the UK and asked if they would send me some pictures for my blog post (it was in my top tips for weddings).  The maker I approached, because her work was so delightfully scrummy, was Jenny Sigley of Wedding Buttonique.

Jenny very generously furnished me with all the photos below with the accompanying text which deserved a whole article of its own, so here it is.

I think this is stunningly beautiful

A closer look reveals all the different elements in the bouquet, it is rather exquisite

I asked Jenny "what is Wedding Buttonique and what does she make?"

"Wedding Buttonique designs and makes unique and individual wedding bouquets for brides and bridesmaids plus a matching design for the groom and his men.  The bouquets can be made from most items so buttons, brooches, washers, wire, keys, pen nibs, bits of old ceramic, handles from grandmas old cupboard etc . . . . . basically anything goes if I can wire it to a frame!  I was once asked to add a pewter walrus to one button bouquet."

"All of my work is designed with the bride and I take photographs all the way through the process so that she is always happy."

Jenny and Tim's Wedding

Another of Jenny's Clients

Jenny explained how Wedding Buttonique started....

"I started Wedding Buttonique after my own wedding in March 2013.  I couldn't find what I wanted for my wedding bouquet so set about looking for something different.  I have always loved buttons so it seemed apt to try and use them for my own bouquet."

The colours are rainbow bright in this bouquet and the matching buttonholes are truly delightful 

How does Buttonique sell?

"Brides contact me via Etsy and we have a discussion on the item, price and when it is needed.  I can set up payment plans and a suitable time frame which all fits to what the bride can afford and needs."

 I Really like the unusual quality of this bouquet, there are some wonderfully playful additions, I suspect the client it was made for also sews given the buttons and scissors

How gorgeous these spring colours look 

WeddingButtonique Contact Details:

email; WeddingButtonique@gmail.com

Twitter; @Buttonique

Etsy; https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/WeddingButtonique

F/b; https://www.facebook.com/weddingbuttonique/

You can also find some more information about WeddingButtonique on Jenny's blog - which, by her own admission she hardly has time for - http://weddingbuttonique.blogspot.co.uk/

This is pretty and very gorgeously feminine

I want to thank Jenny for her contribution, I hope those of you out there who want something different to fresh flowers will consider this idea, the endless possibilities for a bouquet like this are limited only by your imagination.

Weddings – A Tailors perspective – 10 Point Plan

Well here it is, my big pot of tips for making the best of what you will wear on your big day.  This is of course very personal to you, but there are some things about the ‘wedding industry’ that make me very cross on your behalf, drives me to distraction actually.  To me it seems that as soon as one puts the ‘W’ word in front of something it gives suppliers of good and services a licence to print money, and who wants to spend what could be a deposit for a house on one single day.  With the cost of the average wedding coming in at a whopping £20,000 it is worth taking some time to think about the following points to see where you can get fabulous for less.

These are the challenges I will be exploring and addressing:

1. Wedding Dresses - Off the peg verses Bespoke.

You can spend an awful lot on a dress these days, in 2010 I came across a big label wedding dress that a friend bought for £5,000, it was ok, but nothing to write home about; even if I used the most expensive of silks I could have made it for a quarter of that!  I my humble opinion a number of things has happened to wedding dresses over the last decade that are not great, they have become very unforgiving and they are being made with not terribly nice fabrics, they are rather elaborate and not terribly flattering to my way of thinking.  It seems that brides are supposed to make themselves fit into the dress, it should be that the dress is made or altered to fit the bride.

I have a bit of a problem with one particular design of dress, it is very unflattering on most body types, especially if you have any more than an ounce of flesh on you – this is the strapless muffin top dress; it’s great if you are a size six and built like a supermodel but the rest of us mere mortals would look much better in something more forgiving.

Instead, you could find yourself an experienced dressmaker or ladies tailor.  Your tailor could create a beautiful dress to your own design, or designed with you if this is not your strong suit.  I have access to lots of UK fabric wholesalers, especially of Silk, and can get any number of colours, finishes and weights of fabric to create the most amazing confection for you, most makers know where to get the best for you.  The other major advantage of having a dress made to fit, is just that, it will fit like a glove and will make the most of your best features.

This dress I made when working with Gracie Burnett some years ago, the client was a petit lady who had a lager bust that she felt self-conscious about; the dress we made was reinforced in the appropriate area so that the cross over bodice held her safe and sound all day.  This was helped with the piping around the neck that can pull tight to prevent gaping. 

2. New or Second Hand – cost, luck, budget, charity shops & online bargains

As I've stated above, a new dress can be very expensive indeed; however, there are bargains if you know where to find them.  You can save a fortune if you are canny.

Firstly, have a look in the charity and vintage shops, take your time over this, it may take a little while to find what you want.  Some charities sell wedding dresses on their websites as do many vintage shops.  If you are up for a day out there are some amazing vintage shops in London around Covent Garden and in the big markets around the Capitol.  Most larger towns sport one or two as well so do some research and take a look.

As for online sale sites, there are bargains to be had of course, but beware, the photos can look very different to the article that comes in the post.  Another disadvantage of ordering online is that you don’t get to try anything on before you buy; there is also the matter of the pattern cutting.  Different factories use different blocks (this is the basic pattern from which designers work), blocks have evolved over the years to take in how our bodies have changed so much, and some organisations have not caught up yet with later sets of body measurements.

Just remember, research, research, research.

This dress my client bought second hand from a bridal hire shop, it was a couple of sizes too big but once it was altered it was perfect, she paid £60 for it and the alterations cost £160 – quite a bargain at £220.

3. Colour, Texture and Fabrics – not just white & ivory, lace and not just polyester

Most wedding dresses are white/ivory and made with unrelenting polyester, that’s fine for the hire market where they will be be worn and cleaned many times.  However, the white dress is a pretty new idea brought about by Queen Victoria who wore white when she married Prince Albert.   During the early part of the 20th Century it became ubiquitous until the outbreak of World War 2, during the war years women made what they could with what was available and towards the end of the war rationing got very tight indeed so women wore the best dress or suit they possessed – whatever it was.  So now we have this hangover that the wedding industry has run with and the meringue reigns supreme. 

Colour is beautiful, and there are few who can truly carry off white or ivory without it washing them out somewhat; deeper cream is much better for the skin if you really want to go down this avenue.  However, what would you wear if there was no specific colour tradition?  For myself (who wore pure white the first time round) I am going to wear French Blue Kantha Silk and Orchid Red Crepe backed Satin (Silk) the next time round, with a fair complexion both of these will look rather fab methinks.  If you had access to any number of fabrics and finishes of silk you could be very creative and design a distinctive dress/outfit that would be wholly you!

Have a good think about what you would really love to get married in before committing to what is usually thought of as a wedding dress, if you want to look yourself on your big day then you need to find someone like me to design it with you and make it for you.

I love this wedding dress, my client has been married previously and after a long chat it came across very strongly that she loved to dance and wanted a dress that would flow beautifully as she moved.

You can see here the movement in the dress as she walked into the church, the breeze took the skirt and made it glide as she walked.

This dress is also for a client who had been previously married, she has always been a very glamourous woman, having been in the film and fashion industries before retirement and wanted a lovely soft turquoise dress with interesting lace motifs.   In the process of fabric research I found a fantastic new supplier in London who sells lovely stretch satins in lots of colours and lots of very cool laces.

We built in special supports to ensure greater comfort and support to relieve a spinal condition without materially impacting on the design.  I was especially pleased with this dress as it was a fantastic technical challenge to incorporate the extra support needed.

I love this dress, made for a Head Teacher when I was working with Gracie Burnett. 

Her students wanted her to look like a Fairy Queen and we achieved this with multi layers of silks in the skirt to create something quite ethereal.  Apparently the students were awestruck when she appeared at the Church entrance.

4. Jewellery and Flowers – Hand made, original, family heir looms, button/bead bouquet

Some of you will want to use family pieces for your jewellery, and I actively encourage this as it will bring absent and beloved relatives into your day.  For those of you who want to buy something new there are many wonderful makers of one off pieces that often work out less costly than something from a main stream jeweller.  Swing by many of the local craft fairs in your area and you will undoubtedly find someone who makes beautiful pieces; my friend at Glass Owl makes her own glass beads and is a silver smith so can make the most amazing wares – I have a number of pieces that she has made for me including a pair of earrings that she made from a bracelet that my grandfather bought for my grandmother on his way up through Europe in 1947, a lovely heirloom now.

If you have a friend who makes wire work, you could design something like this which my son made for my dancer bride to match her dress.

As for flowers, these can be astonishingly costly!  If you can find a wholesaler for flowers to be made up by a friend and decorate the church yourself you will save a fortune.  My Grandmother decorated the Church for me first time round, and a friend of a friend made the bouquets; the flowers themselves I bought direct from the wholesalers and in 1992 the whole package of Church, bouquets and table decorations and the flowers themselves cost less than £100.

I have recently been very enthused by Button, Bead and Brooch Bouquets and got in contact with Wedding Buttonique, a maker of really pretty examples of this kind of work via Etsy after coming across her work and falling in love with it

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These are examples of work by Wedding Buttonique, she is based in Manchester but does a lot of bespoke work with clients all over the country and very kindly sent me lots a details about her work and these beautiful pictures (see shopping guide below to contact direct). As you can see these flexible and individual creations that can be incredibly personal.

5. Under Garments – Bras, corsetry, support, undergarments to make you feel pretty

Now, undergarments are pretty personal at the best of times, some of you will be very happy to go braless, have just uplift inserts, or will want lots of support to tie down those wobbly bits that make you feel self-conscious.  A word to the wise about curves – they are beautiful and you can do a lot these days to make the most of them, AND only around 2% of the population are a standard size, so please stop fretting.  

First find a flattering silhouette for your dress, ideally with straps, sleeves or a jacket, then, go to a good underwear fitters.  There are independent stores all over the country in larger towns and cities.  Get measured and fitted properly by an experienced fitter, older ladies who have been doing it for decades are the best as they have seen it all and are very skilled at making you look your best.

If you want to create a look without straps showing there are a number of avenues to try, you can go without if your dress has lots of good support build in, you could explore uplift inserts or stick on cups.  My personal recommendation is a good and well fitted strapless bra with a low back as this will support you well.  Taking a step up from the bra are body support garments, there are loads of these, and they will pull you in and lift you up a treat, but you do need to get them properly fitted if you have not bought one before.

This whole area is a matter of personal taste, but if you get it fitted well you will be well away for looking and feeling amazing – just bear in mind that the only person who knows what is under your dress is you and if you want the support, don’t worry too much about how plain support garments can look – they are prettier now than they ever have been before though which is good!

6. The Groom – the suit, waistcoats, ties/cravats, shirts, future use*

I know you chaps like to either choose for yourself, or your good lady bride will have firm ideas about what she will want you to wear, and everything in between.  Suits can be pretty expensive to have made to measure and if you are not a standard shape it can be a bit tricky to buy one off the peg, but, you can save money in a number of ways.

Charity shops are a great place to look if you are on a really tight budget and you can often get something really nice for between £5-£50.  You can also get good second hand bargains in designer labels online.  And don’t forget off the peg, a high street suit can look fab with the addition of a good shirt and tie/cravat.  

All of these are less easy to make work if you are not a standard size and shape, that’s where someone like me comes in; you can get a suit that fits around the waist and chest and can have the sleeve heads moved if they are too wide, the back of the jacket can be sculpted, sleeves shortened and trousers altered to make it all fit beautifully.  

Before committing to this though, do your research first, ensure the person you select to do the alterations will do a good job, moving sleeve heads for instance is a pretty specialist job – I do it all the time but not many of us do.  

Research, research, research is the key, and talk to the person who does your alterations BEFORE you buy a suit that needs changing.

Shirts can also be obtained for a lot less at second hand, my sons have a comprehensive collection of very good shits that have been bought for less than £5 each from charity shops.  Good shirts can make a less expensive suit look very classy and there are lots of very good outfitters all over the country – in the oddest places sometimes; where you find private schools there are always good shirts to be had.  Coloured shirts look very good indeed and grooms look amazing in innovative colour ways and pattern.

Consider before buying what you will wear these garments for in the future too, spending a fortune on a great suit is all very well but if it sits in the wardrobe never to be worn again it is a waste!  Choose a suit you love, that you want to wear again, that will look good as separates with other jackets and trousers you already own and think about other occasions too.   In bygone years a man would have a suit made every few years and they would literally wear them out – very cost effective, and this is why suits are made the way they are, especially trousers with that wide seam allowance in the back. 

All of this also applies to ties and cravats, if you never usually wear a tie, get one that you really like, understated, good quality and will go with anything.  I personally think cravats are a bit of a waste of money, but if you like them, go for it.

7. Bridesmaids – shopping around, retailers, department stores and nice things from discount centres, future use*

I get very cross indeed about bridesmaids dresses, there are dozens of companies that make quite pretty dresses that are often made in the same factory as cheap imports from online and charge a fortune for them.  Rather telling is that they often don’t publicise their prices up front, they reel you in and when you feel committed they hit you with the price because they regard you as a captive audience.  Last year I had a client who paid over £600 per dress for 4 dresses from a company in London who traded on a made to measure ethos; ONE fitted and all the rest had to be altered so much I practically remade them at an average cost of £200 per dress, I could have made them all from scratch for around half the original price and they really would have been made to measure!

Consider department stores, discount villages, charity shops, second hand, vintage stores and made to measure with a private dressmaker/tailor in your local area.  If the bride or her family is paying, suggest this delicately and put forward ideas, if the bridesmaids are paying, be a little assertive and suggest taking a look at the high street for nice dresses that the bridesmaids would like to wear after the wedding day, it is a lot of money to spend and it does not have to break the bank.  One of my brides took her bridesmaids to our local shopping village and got some lovely vintage style dresses from the previous season at one of the outlets for £20 each – and they were fantastic.  All she did was to pretty the dresses up a little with her own home made jewellery and bought some ribbon for belts that she paid very little for at the local haberdashers.

8. Mother of the Bride and Groom – not just for that day, thinking outside the box, future use*

Ladies, consider what actually suits YOU!  The uniform like outfit for the mother of the bride/groom of a semi fitted ¾ length jacket over a sleeveless princess line dress does not suit everybody.  There are retailers that suffer the same pitfalls as those who provide bridesmaids dresses and it has become a bit disheartening for those of us who love good clothes.  Think about what this outfit is going to do after the wedding day, invest in something that really suits your figure and don’t be afraid of breaking with tradition.

This outfit I made for a friend who doesn’t really do skirts or dresses and who is a fellow maker and is very creative herself.  She had a very firm idea about what she wanted so we created together this outfit with 100% silk, Palazzo Pants, a long sleeved top and an Embroidered silk Jacket that she wears with jeans quite often.

These are the pants and top without the jacket, she wore this a lot on holiday in Greece last summer.

This is an outfit I made for another friend who wanted something she would wear a lot after the day and placed herself in my hands to design for her; she also had palazzo pants in printed denim to match the silk jersey tunic and Kantha silk waistcoat and scarf as it was an Autumn wedding.  She really loves her outfit and was really comfy and confident all day long and had lots of compliments.

On the day

9. Father of the Bride and Groom – shop around, re-use, alterations, future use*

Calling all fathers of the Bride or Groom to get a nice suit that you like and will carry on wearing for many years to come!  Take all the points for the Groom listed above and do your research and get your money’s worth.

The Father of the Groom in Photo 16 bought his suit in a local charity shop for £40, it is a Paul Smith suit that fitted him perfectly and was wonderful under his Vicar’s vestments while he officiated at his Son’s wedding.

1.       10. The Local Shopping Guide for the most fantastic things;

These are companies and events manly based in Dorset, Wiltshire & Somerset as I am in North Dorset but if you go online and ask around on social media you will surely find what you need in your area

·         Jewellery – local craft makers and fairs, in my area there is Gillingham Arts & Craft Market www.gillinghamartsandcraftsmarket.co.uk/  Crafts at the Exchange  in Sturminster Newton, Tinker Belles Market at Stourhead, Camelot Market, Town Hall Shaftesbury. Home made by friends (most of us know someone who does beading and makes beautiful things) family heirlooms

·         Wedding Buttonique – email; WeddingButtonique@gmail.com, Etsy; https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/WeddingButtonique, F/b; https://www.facebook.com/weddingbuttonique/.  

·         Clothing &Undergarments – Just Jane, http://anniesjustjane.co.uk/ 28 Milford St, Salisbury SP1 2AP. Hine & Parsons 28 High St, Shaftesbury SP7 8JG.

·         Discount shopping – Clarkes Village, http://www.clarksvillage.co.uk/  Somerset. Bailie House, http://www.bailiehousewarehouse.co.uk/ Sturminster Marshall, Dorset. Charity Shops, in our local area Salisbury and Sherborne are the best destinations in my area. Wow Retro Men’s & Ladies, http://www.wowretro.co.uk/ 179 Drury Lane, Covent Garden WC2B.

·         Menswear – Squires http://www.barbour.com/shop/squires-shaftesbury 29-31 High St, Shaftesbury SP7 8JE. Chas H Baker, http://www.chashbaker.com/  15 Milford St, Salisbury SP1 2AL.

Future use relates to what you would like to do with the garments once the big day is over, I’m sure that you want to make the most of the investment you will be making and get value for you money.

I do hope you find all this useful, weddings are pretty daunting events and are jolly expensive; however, if you want to save lots and still have the most amazing day with your friends and family, go for saving all that dosh and put it to better use.  All of the best weddings I have been to over the years have been the ones that have been produced by utilising the pool of skills and creativity in their family and friends.

Good luck my friends!